Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Hell no!!!

SILENCE OF THE ASS

EVEN I WOULDN'T FUCK ME

CONFUSION


NEXT THING YOU KNOW MEN WILL WANT YEARLY PAP SMEARS AND MAMMOGRAMS……….yeah right.

I try not to get into the habit of giving any of the father rights idiots anymore attention, but then I think about all the people that need to be educated on the blatant misogyny that Glenn Sacks and his minions bathe in.

In a recent post on Glenn Sacks rag “Mens Daily News” he confesses that,

“I posed as a male victim of domestic violence and called every domestic violence shelter in all of Los Angeles and San Diego counties.”

Isn’t it illegal to prank call?

According to Sacks,

“Not a single one would accept me or offer assistance, with the exception of Valley Oasis. Most flatly refused any assistance at all, but a couple did offer me space in a homeless shelter.” Apparently Sacks cares not for the women that may be stalked there and an ex may pretend he’s abused to gain entrance? All those calls must have put all residents and staff on high alert, how awful to be stressed more.

Mr. Sacks must be confused about a lot of things, mainly his gender. Sacks goes on to say when he asks them “Am I supposed to take my children to a homeless shelter?”

If you TRULY are a abused man allegedly with children and you are escaping an abuser a homeless shelter seems like the safest place to be.

But this is the typical trash from a man that makes you wonder how he treats other women in his life, wife, mother, sister or child?

The world according to these father rights activists is that feminism destroyed their lives.

They want you to believe that men are abused equally if not MORE than women but yet they do NOTHING to get their OWN shelters for the throngs of men who get their ass whipped by their women. Women and men saw a need and they built shelters for women with their children a safe haven from abusers.

The intention was clear, if your men group needs to have some place to go after they get raped by their wives after a night of boozing it up….build a male sexual abuse shelter!

If one of your brethren gets his face shoved into the carpet because he didn’t do ALL the dishes…by all means build that man a place to live.

IF he gets a baby bottle “tossed” at his face (while he’s holding a baby) then I say build a SHELTER! Instead of blaming shelters and everyone else for your problems do something about it!

END YOUR CONFUSION

ballsacks

The Truth about "Parental Alienation Syndrome"

Parental

Alienation

Syndrome

and

Parental

Alienation

Joan S. Meier, Esq., George Washington University Law School

1

A mother who raises the issue of domestic violence or child sexual abuse during

child custody litigation may find herself accused of

parental alienation syndrome

or

parental alienation. These accusations often lead family courts to focus on the

mother’s motives and unwillingness to co-parent, discount what she says about

abuse, and, all too often, order the children into custody or unsupervised visitation

with their abusive father.

Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS)

“PAS” was defined by psychiatrist Richard Gardner

2 as a mental health disorder

in which mothers use child (primarily sexual) abuse allegations to punish their

ex-husbands and win custody for themselves. He theorized that these mothers

brainwash their children into believing that their father had abused them and

enlist them in a ”campaign of denigration” against the father, in which the children

contribute their own fabricated stories. Gardner’s proposed remedy was extreme -

denying all mother-child contact and “de-programming” the child to change their

belief that they had been abused.

Gardner had no objective data to support his theory and extensive empirical

research directly contradicts it. Studies show that child sexual abuse claims are

actually made in a very small percentage of custody cases, and only 12% or fewer

are intentionally false.

3 Even researchers who see alienation as a real problem

concur that there is no scientific basis for describing it as a mental health

syndrome

in the child.

4 But because family courts place such a priority on fostering children’s

relationships with their noncustodial parents, alienation claims have more power

than they deserve in defeating claims of abuse. To counter that trend, the National

Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges has warned that:

[t]he discredited “diagnosis” of “PAS” (or allegation of “parental alienation”), quite

apart from its scientific invalidity, inappropriately asks the court to assume

that the children’s behaviors and attitudes toward the parent who claims to be

“alienated” have no grounding in reality. It also diverts attention away from the

behaviors of the abusive parent, who may have directly influenced the children’s

responses by acting in violent, disrespectful, intimidating, humiliating and/or

discrediting ways toward the children themselves, or the children’s other parent.

5

Parental Alienation (PA)

The discrediting of PAS has not ended allegations of alienation in custody litigation.

But while children in divorcing families are sometimes estranged from one parent,

there is no evidence that parental poisoning of the child’s mind – as opposed

to the disfavored parent’s own conduct –

causes this estrangement. Even Janet

Johnston, a leading proponent of PA, found that, despite alienating behaviors

by almost all the divorcing parents she studied, only 6% of the children were

“extremely rejecting” and only 20% were “consistently negative” toward the other

parent. And many of those had specific reasons for their hostility, including abuse

or neglect.

6

It may be no coincidence that, along with courts’ increased focus on alienation, joint custody is regularly awarded

despite a history of abuse, primary caregivers alleging abuse often lose custody, and a growing number have been

judicially cut off from virtually all contact with their children.

7 One study found that abusive fathers received more

visitation than non-abusers.

8 In response to these trends, the NYS legislature adopted Chapter 538 of the Laws of

2008, which amends §240 of the Domestic Relations Law, requiring courts to consider abuse allegations and to not

punish parents who bring such allegations in good faith.

1 The author, Joan Meier, excerpted this essay from her longer paper.

See Meier, J. (2009). Parental Alienation Syndrome and Parental Alienation: Research Reviews. Harrisburg, PA, http://www.vawnet.org

2 Gardner, R.A. (1992).

The Parental Alienation Syndrome: A Guide For Mental Health & Legal Professionals, Cresskill, N.J.: Creative Therapeutics, 226-227.

3 Trocme, N. & Bala, N. (2005). False allegations of abuse & neglect when parents separate

, Child Abuse & Neglect, 29(12), 1333-1345; Thoennes, N. & Tjaden, P.G. (1990). The extent, nature, & validity of sexual abuse allegations in custody/visitation disputes, Child

Abuse & Neglect

, 14, 151-163.

4 Emery, R.E., Otto R.K. & O’Donohue, W. T. (2005). A critical assessment of child custody evaluations: limited science and a flawed system,

Pychological Science in the Public Interest, 6(1), 1-29; Gould, J.W. (2006). Conducting Scientifically Crafted

C

hild Custody Evaluations
(2nd ed.), Sarasota, FL: Professional Resource Press.

5 Dalton, C., Drozd, L., &Wong, F. (2004, rev. 2006). Navigating Custody and Visitation Evaluations in Cases with Domestic Violence: A Judge’s Guide

, National Council of Juvenile & Family Court Judges & State Justice Institute.

6 Johnston, J.R., Walters, M.G., & Olesen, N.W. (2005). Is it alienating parenting, role reversal or child abuse? A study of children’s rejection of a parent in child custody disputes.

J. Child Custody, 5, 191-218.

7 Lesher, M., & Neustein, A. (2005).

From Madness to Mutiny: Why Mothers Are Running from the Family Courts – and What Can Be Done About It. Northeastern University Press.

8 Rosen, L. & O’Sullivan, C.S. (2005). Outcomes of custody & visitation petitions when fathers are restrained by protection orders

, Violence Against Women, 11(8), 1054-1075.

ABC Abbott's divorce proposal 'ludicrous'

What an idiot!!!

Abbott's divorce proposal 'ludicrous'

ABC July 14, 2009, 1:00 pm

Former Western Australia Labor premier Peter Dowding has hit out at Liberal frontbencher Tony Abbott's plan to make divorce harder, saying Mr Abbott wants to retreat to "blame game" divorce.

Under Mr Abbott's marriage plan, heterosexual couples can sign up to a fault-based model, like the former Matrimonial Causes Act

The act, dropped in 1975, required aggrieved spouses to prove offences like adultery, habitual drunkenness or cruelty to be granted a divorce.

The Opposition families spokesman is touting the return to fault-based divorce as a way to shore up traditional values, but Mr Dowding, a barrister and family law specialist, sees plenty of flaws with Mr Abbott's idea.

"The point about Tony Abbott's argument is that he wants to retreat to a blame game so you can actually blame someone in a divorce situation," Mr Dowding told ABC News Online.

"It's completely ludicrous to talk about making divorce harder at a time when people can separate easily. If you can separate easily, the question of making divorce harder or less hard is irrelevant.

"It's like Alice in Wonderland. It's like stepping through a looking glass into la-la land where Tony Abbott happily sits with his morality judging people while no-one's life gets harder or easier."

Mr Dowding, who stepped down as WA premier in 1990, says making divorce harder will just keep people in meaningless marriages.

"People are going to separate and if they do separate and they can't get a divorce, they live apart from their spouse, never being able to remarry, but able to enter into de facto relationships, which have the same legal relationship as marriage, so all it does is demean the institution of marriage," he said.

Abbott's plans

Mr Abbott's plan would see heterosexual couples offered an alternative to the current law allowing divorce after a 12-month separation.

"The point I make in the book is that a society that is moving towards some kind of recognition of gay unions, for instance, is surely capable of providing additional recognition to what might be thought of as traditional marriage," Mr Abbott told Fairfax newspapers.

"Something akin to a Matrimonial Causes Act marriage ought to be an option for people who would like it.

"Even though [marriage] is probably the most important commitment that any human being can make, in fact there are many, many contracts which are harder to enter and harder to get out of than this one."

'Right-wing Catholics'

But Mr Dowding does not think there is any room for Mr Abbott's argument in Australian politics.

"I don't like people who are right-wing judgemental Catholics trying to bring their religious politics into Australian life," he said.

"We're not a bunch of Americans. We don't go round with our politicians pretending to be deeply religious and demanding that everyone else be while they go around committing adultery on the side, as they do in America.

"And we don't want to be in a position where people with right-wing and intolerant attitudes, like Tony Abbott, control what people believe.

"If people separate because they're unhappy with each other and live their lives apart, is he suggesting we want to go back to the 1960s and before when private investigators jump through windows and photograph people in bed?

"What's that going to achieve? Say you've been separated for five years from your wife or husband and you choose not to remarry and you have another relationship, you expect a private eye to come and [take a] photograph. I mean, how ludicrous is that?"

Mr Dowding says plenty of changes need to be made to the current Family Law Act, but the divorce itself is almost irrelevant.

"The biggest difficulty that people who are in relationships and separate have is to sort out what are the arrangements for the children and what are the arrangements for maintenance, and what are the arrangements for the property," he said.

"They're the difficult things about which people fight. The actual divorce itself is almost an irrelevancy.

"It comes about when people have been separated and their marriage is broken down.

"You can't hold people to failed marriages. So the idea of having a divorce based on something other than a failed marriage is just ludicrous."

Opposition finance spokeswoman Helen Coonan was cool on Mr Abbott's idea to bring back fault-based divorce when she spoke to the ABC yesterday.

Senator Coonan, who used to practise family law, says she needs convincing.

"The no-fault divorce, as a principle, seems to have worked reasonably well since 1975," she told AM.

"So I'll be just interested to see what he says is the problem with the way in which the divorce law is working."

Men in Family Law Court



While we were waiting in the waiting area of the Family Court, we were watching the other people and then we went in and watched a few cases in the court room. I swear people are so stereotypical and you could pick what the cases were about purely from what they looked like and how they acted outside.
Mr Short Back and Sides army guy and his new prissy wife were obviously there to get his kid from another marriage and guess what I was right...they didn't have orders but he kept the daughter since Christmas because they didn't think she was being looked after properly by her mother ( a nurse). Mother wasn't in court and they were trying to get sole custody based upon the kid missing a few weeks of school the previous year.

Mr Loud and obnoxious was there to avoid Child support and to demand a DNA test.

Ms Skanky was being questioned by her husband if the kid was his andd she had to confess to sleeping around.

Then there was the guy who thought his ex wife should be inconvenienced by having to travel a distance of 1000 kilometres with 4 kids rather than he alone having to travel.

90% of the cases were initiated by men. Interesting and most of the men seemed motivated by the dollars (ie Child Support or seeking not to pay it.)